To see better, so through as many eyes as possible that are not your own. A lot of stupid things get held onto just because youre afraid of admitting you were wrong and that you continued stubbornly to adhere to a false reality of your own creation. Write down what you want to do, what in your life you want to fix, and then you start doing what it takes to make it happen. Love yourself enough to demand more, want more from your life. Ruthless self love. Forgive your failures but demand the very best. We will only tolerate abuse from others equal to or less than the abuse we give ourselves, not more. Treat yourself well and you wont let anyone else run you over either.